tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post2193165646711264255..comments2023-11-03T22:16:57.302+13:00Comments on Baby on my mind becomes baby in my arms!: A baby is bornclewishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04892147307925513178noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-17186933958284174062011-03-26T07:44:27.663+13:002011-03-26T07:44:27.663+13:00It definitely hard knowing someone close to you is...It definitely hard knowing someone close to you is having a baby and your supposed to be so supportive and happy but you have difficulty bringing yourself to do that. I know when my sister was pregnant with baby number 2 I was crushed. I mean happy for her sad for me. I didn't really want to be around her. She realized how bad this was hurting me and became ever so supportive. When she went into labor she called me and asked me to come in the room. I was shocked. It was me her and her husband. I stayed for the whole delivery....It was such a blessing. when my nephew came out i couldn't stop myself from crying. I kept thinking that this is so amazing and I pray to concieve. At that moment it was time for my brother-in-law to cut the cord. He looked at me and handed me the scissors. he responded "we want you to be here and to take part so that you can have a full experience" I couldn't stop crying. Amazing. Since that day I have such a better bond with my sister and family. Although i still struggle day to day I think at how blessed I was to be a part of something that I may never have.RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08461938711382944492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-47984185620991146572011-03-11T09:25:29.453+13:002011-03-11T09:25:29.453+13:00aww dont know what to say, that sounds so hard xxx...aww dont know what to say, that sounds so hard xxxxxxxxooooooooDebshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192227600368209249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-90339336610614282012011-03-11T05:16:59.490+13:002011-03-11T05:16:59.490+13:00It sounds like you two have a wonderful friendship...It sounds like you two have a wonderful friendship. I'm so proud of you for not walking away, and also for protecting yourself. This is wonderful, as it can be so incredibly hard!Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-52454587546693085162011-03-10T19:04:00.567+13:002011-03-10T19:04:00.567+13:00My best friend is due on May 23rd and I still don&...My best friend is due on May 23rd and I still don't know how I'm going to process it all. I don't want to take away from her (well deserved) happiness, but I'd be lying if I said it would be easy. Sigh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-57992249748555629682011-03-10T18:49:44.372+13:002011-03-10T18:49:44.372+13:00It's great that she's been so understandin...It's great that she's been so understanding and compassionate through her pregnancy... and she'll understand how you feel when you visit. Good idea to go alone - a friend of mine recently had a baby and I visited alone for similar reasons, and it ended up going really well (with only a few little tears). There is something about holding a baby that is so magical and a true reminder of why we go through the heartache we do - to be a mum :) You'll be a great one too xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-84164858398499276022011-03-10T16:51:43.741+13:002011-03-10T16:51:43.741+13:00It is very hard to be a part of someone else's...It is very hard to be a part of someone else's joy when you want that for yourself more than anything in the world. My sister in law is pregnant with #2 and it breaks my heart it's not me. I just want one! You want to be excited for others, but it's hard when you aren't excited about your own life. Infertility sucks! Good luck when you visit.AuntAudi21https://www.blogger.com/profile/10423415982368599532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-79868105052842147932011-03-10T16:04:02.226+13:002011-03-10T16:04:02.226+13:00oops sorry for the crazy long comment!oops sorry for the crazy long comment!Antshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03108331684125032167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-11315020573204697742011-03-10T16:01:25.065+13:002011-03-10T16:01:25.065+13:00My best friend had a baby boy 3 weeks ago and I wa...My best friend had a baby boy 3 weeks ago and I was a little nervous about going and visiting(she has been an amazing support for me too)But you know what?Once I was in that room with her beautiful boy in my arms-I wasn't even thinking about IF or myself, I just enjoyed the moment and it was a good reminder as to why we are going through all of this. I think it's easier when it's a supportive friend as you know you can be yourself around them and they will understand.<br />I have been back for many more cuddles with her baby since then-we have a joke now that it's part of my IF treatment as we both heard that being around babies can help somehow-gets the 'baby hormones' going or something!<br />It's awesome that your friend has been such a great support for you, and that you in turn are supporting her-it's not easy but often the thought of it is much worse than actually doing it-best of luck chickie :0 xoAntshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03108331684125032167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-82941235210500923012011-03-10T15:40:27.950+13:002011-03-10T15:40:27.950+13:00ugh, I totally get this and there is no easy way t...ugh, I totally get this and there is no easy way through it. I think you are so brave for pushing yourself and being there for your friend. I find that over gifting makes me feel better and does the job of saying the things that I am struggling with, plus it helps with the guilt I feel over the entire situation.<br />good luck with the shopping and visit.cdghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13174907373129154516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7771938526847818894.post-76604529016870122442011-03-10T15:21:52.977+13:002011-03-10T15:21:52.977+13:00I totally understand how you are both happy for he...I totally understand how you are both happy for her and also this is so hard. I'm glad you're being such a good friend and yet doing it in a way that is best for you. This kind of stuff is so very difficult. Hugs to you.<br />-Kristen from www.buckupbuttercup.netKristen {www.buckupbuttercup.net}https://www.blogger.com/profile/12567721300726079569noreply@blogger.com